How Can I Manage My Long Distance Relationship?

You may find someone special via ChristianCupid.com and want to embark on a relationship with them – but you may live states or even countries apart!

They say that absence makes the heart grow fonder – but are long distance relationships really practical? Here are some things that you’ll need to consider:

• Long distance relationships require a lot of trust on both sides – after all, you’re each a long way away from one another. The other person won’t be as accountable to you as if you lived close by and met every day. Do you truly feel as though you can trust the other person to commit only to you?
• If you’re serious about the other person, then in time you’ll want to marry and live together. You need to consider where you would both live – their state / country or yours? Would you be prepared to uproot your life in order to be with them? If not, then you need to consider whether you’re truly serious about him or her

You both need to pray, before you commit to a long distance relationship. Only God knows the outcome and whether this is His plan for you both. Before you do anything else, seek God’s will, and don’t act until after you’re sure that you’ve heard from Him.

If you’ve both prayed and are certain that God wants you to be together, then here are some tips to help you to manage your long distance relationship:

• Firstly, you need to keep communicating with each other. Email and message one another as often as you can – at least once a day. But as emails and messages can sometimes be misread or misunderstood, when you’ve got something particularly important to say, it’s best to communicate by phone. It will be easier for you to tell from hearing the other person’s voice, rather than from reading their emails or messages, whether they are becoming fatigued with the relationship. If you sense that it’s becoming burdensome to them, then you need to confront them as soon as possible, to avoid heartache later on
• You need to continue to plan your future together. If you are both contributing toward future plans and actively discussing where you will both live, etc., then the relationship is likely to be heading in the right direction. But if the other person is making plans that don’t seem to include you, or sidestepping your conversations about your future life together, then you may need to assess whether they’re truly committed

People who are separated by long distances often seem to try harder to make the relationship work – if God wants you to be together, He will equip you with all that you need to persevere through the tough times.

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