How Should I Behave On A First Date?

You’ve hit it off with someone you met at ChristianCupid.com. You’ve been talking online for a while and now you feel ready to meet them in person.

You’ve agreed on a location, day and time for your first date – but how should you behave once you’re there?

There are two key issues to remember:

• You must honour God through your conversation and behaviour at all times.
• You must show respect for the other person.

Getting these two things right will firmly set the tone of your date.

Here are some other tips that may help you:

• Pray before your date. Pray for wisdom and pray that you will act respectfully toward God and the other person at all times. If you hear from God at any point telling you not to go on the date, then don’t go. He knows what’s around the corner; it’s for your own good to obey Him.
• Be sure to arrive early or on time. It’s disrespectful to the other person if you’re late, especially if you chose the venue.
• Dress nicely, to show your respect for the other person. But don’t dishonour God by dressing provocatively.
• If you’re the man, then demonstrate that you know how to be a gentleman. Open doors for the lady. Stand up when she enters the room.
• Give your full attention to the other person. Make sure that your mobile is turned off, and don’t keep checking it for missed calls or messages. Listen carefully to the other person and ask them lots of questions. Don’t dominate the conversation yourself.
• A first date is the perfect opportunity to each talk about your faith and to assess whether the other person is in fact a genuine Christian. Share your testimony with him or her and ask them to share theirs. Don’t agree to a second date unless you’re certain that they are saved – God commands us not to be unequally yoked to unbelievers.
• At the end of the date, tell the other person how much you appreciated him or her coming out with you. Even if it really didn’t go very well and you know that you don’t want a repeat date, at least behave respectfully toward him or her.

The key things to remember are to act honourably at all times – toward God and toward the other person. If God has this person planned for you as a future partner, then He will establish a relationship between you both. If not, then He has someone more perfect in mind for you – keep seeking Him in prayer and expectation and listen to His leading.

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