How Will I Know When I've Found My Christian Match?

You’re in a great relationship with a loving, caring, generous man or woman. Both of you are beginning to consider marriage. But before you propose – or accept the proposal – you want to make sure that they’re Mr or Miss Right – right?

The Bible doesn’t specifically tell us how we can recognise Mr or Miss Right.

But it does provide the following guidelines:

• You should only consider marrying your boyfriend or girlfriend if he or she is also a Christian. ‘She is at liberty to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord’ (1 Cor 7:39b). If you are both committed to obeying Christ – no matter what – then He will be able to make your marriage a success


• You should ensure that you are both ready for the responsibility of marriage, by studying the biblical roles of the husband and wife: ‘Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish. So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church. For we are members of His body, of His flesh and of His bones’ (Eph 5:22-30)


• You should ensure that you have known one another for sufficient time that you are well acquainted with each other’s character, personality and habits. How does your boyfriend or girlfriend respond to different situations? Have you noticed how he or she behaves around family and friends? What kind of company does he or she keep when you’re not around (1 Cor 15:33)? Does he or she always treat you with great love and respect, even when they’re frustrated or distracted? Do you agree on all of the essential day-to-day issues that you will need to address as a married couple – such as children, work and finances?

If you have read through the above list with confidence that your boyfriend or girlfriend does seem right for you, then it’s time to prayerfully decide whether to join together in marriage. Earnestly seek the will of God and He will direct your path (Pr 3:5-6).

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