Should Christians Kiss On The First Date?

Whether or not you should kiss someone when you’re on your first date, depends entirely on who you ask:

• For women:
• Many like being kissed on a first date, especially if they have had a great time and have enjoyed getting to know the man. One woman said, ‘I’m fine with men kissing me on a first date, so long as he’s respectful about it and doesn’t come on too strong.’
• But other women feel that the man is taking a liberty with her, if he tries to kiss her too early in the relationship. One woman commented, ‘Kissing on the first date is definitely too early. It’s too soon to know how you really feel about someone. I prefer to wait until about the third or fourth date.’
• For men:
• Many are happy to be kissed on a first date and enjoy letting the woman take the initiative. One man said, ‘It’s great when women take over – it takes the guesswork out of “should I? / shouldn’t I?”’
• But other men are turned off by a woman who appears to be coming on too strongly. One man remarked, ‘If a woman tried to kiss me on a first date, I’d wonder who else she’d been kissing on a first date. I’d definitely second-think a serious relationship with her.’

Because this is such a tricky area in which it is so easy to offend the other person, it’s probably best not to kiss on the first date, unless you’re absolutely certain that the other person wants to be kissed as much as you want to kiss them. Your relationship will get off to a much smoother, more God-honouring start, if you take things slowly and focus on getting to know the other person first.

Here are some tips for when you do have your first kiss:

• One of the most important things is to make sure that you’re alone with the other person. For a special moment such as this, you don’t want an audience – especially if they’re other people who you know
• Make sure that the right moment has arrived, before you kiss the other person. If you swoop in too early, then you will appear to be rushing. But if you come in too late, then the moment may have passed. You should be able to sense the right moment – something will shift between you both and you’ll just know
• Relax and kiss the other person slowly and gently. This is something that you don’t want to rush or force

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